while it’s really cool that most reasonable people don’t care about tom daley dating a guy, you really should. not for gross heteronormative reasons, but for awesome ones:
sports is probably the field where it’s hardest to come out esp. for men
this is because men who play sports (of all kinds) are held up to a really traditional standard of masculinity
to have someone who makes his living as an athlete stand up and be like “this is who i am” on his own terms is pretty rad
he’s literally risking his career (sponsorship etc) because he thinks being honest is more important
it’s more than a young dude being like “i’m dating a guy”
it’s a sports star — an olympic athlete — saying “i’m dating a guy”
that is pretty big news
that is super duper cool
while you’re getting mad at him being labelled gay or bi think about the fact that he’s getting labelled such because he chose to tell the world about his relationship
he is 19 and he is world famous for playing a sport
this is very rad do you get that yet
that is all you can go now
THIS IS CALLED SUBVERTING HEGEMONIC MASCULINITY. THIS IS CALLED RESHAPING MEDIATED MASCULINITIES IN OUR GLOBAL, CONTEMPORARY WORLDS. THIS IS CALLED HELPING TO REDEFINE WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A COMPLEX HUMAN OUTSIDE OF SOCIAL CONSTRUCTS.
Not only did Daley come out as dating a man, he DIDN’T USE LABELS and he said he STILL FANCIES GIRLS
WHICH MEANS HE THREW AWAY STUPID FUCKING LABELS. HE SAID THIS IS WHO I LIKE AND WHO I’M DATING RN, FUCK LABELS.
(more specifically and technically, this is a HUGE deal that he didn’t say BI or GAY or PAN or whatever even because despite us liking these labels to categorize humans, they play into hierarchies with their own sets of norms. Whether or not Daley intended to, he still didn’t use the labels. He tossed away INGRAINED NORMS! norms that he would have been drawn to placing himself under! THIS IS VERY FUCKING IMPORTANT!!!!!!!)
“Well I’ve changed…massively, when i met someone, who made me feel so happy, so safe and everything just feels great. Well that someone is a guy. And it did take me by surprise a little bit, and it was always in the back of my mind that could happen. But it wasn’t until spring this year that something just clicked. that it felt right.”—Tom Daley (via ruhohmance)
I could blather on for a million years but I will probably never approach the snarky yet poignant affirmation of the importance of sparkly glittery pop music that is this song, next time some dude at a party tries to tell me why the Totally Non-Mainstream Music He Likes is important and complex rather than frivolous and manufactured, which sounds like a straw man situation but actually literally happens to me like every other week because the world is a goddamn pathetic wasteland full of losers, I’m just gonna start yelling “IT’S NOT HARD, IT’S NOT HARD, IT’S NOT HARD, IT’S NOT HAAAAAARD.”
I mean, what kind of a person doesn’t respect “I’d rather make a song they can play on the radio / that makes you wanna dance”?
I love how the roles are reversed. Usually, the man is trying to persuade the woman to stay, and if you stop and look at the lyrics, it’s a touch creepy. When you reverse the genders you get a completely different dynamic.
Olympic diver Tom Daley has revealed he is in a relationship with a man.
In a YouTube broadcast, the 19-year-old London 2012 bronze medallist said: “In spring this year my life changed massively when I met someone, and they make me feel so happy, so safe and everything just feels great.
"That someone is a guy."
Edward Lord, chairman of the Amateur Swimming Association, said: “To be one of the first British Olympic athletes to come out is very brave.”
Daley, from Plymouth in Devon, said: “It did take me by surprise a little bit. It was always in the back of my head that something like that could happen.
"But it wasn’t until spring this year that something just clicked. It felt right and I thought ‘Okay’.
"And my whole world changed there and then."
He added: “Of course I still fancy girls but right now I’m dating a guy and I couldn’t be happier.”
Mr Lord said: “We must all support Tom in taking this incredibly courageous step.”
He said he hoped it would “be a signal not just to other sportspeople but to all young people that you can be open about your sexuality, even in a very public environment.”
He added: “I am very proud of Tom.”
Gay rights campaigners Stonewall tweeted: “Moving and inspiring video from @TomDaley1994. A role model for thousands of other young people.”
Former England footballer Gary Lineker tweeted: “Delighted that @TomDaley1994 is happy in his new relationship. Well done for sharing it. Good luck to them both.”
Daley said his father Rob, who died of cancer aged 40 in 2011, always said to him: “As long as you are happy, I’m happy.”
He added: “My mum has been so supportive as well.”
Daley said there had been “mixed opinions” from some friends and family when he told them that he was making the announcement.
"Lots of them did not believe it," he said.
"Lots of them wanted me to keep it quiet. I didn’t want to get my words twisted.
"I wanted to put an end to all the rumours and speculation, and just say it and tell you guys. It’s what I want to do.
"My friends and family are always there to support me and I hope you guys can be too.
"I mean I’m still Tom, I still want to win an Olympic gold medal in Rio 2016 for Great Britain.
"I am still as motivated as ever to do that. It would be great to have you guys on that journey, too."